Monday, February 1, 2010

Boohoo, I'm Losing Followers

Well, it's my own fault that I'm losing followers because I haven't been a very faithful blogger for quite some time. And I'm not really that upset because I know not everyone will like what I have to say when I do say it.

I have actually battled my conscience about deciding to stop following other people's blogs because I hate to make anyone feel bad. I would think, "oh, please, don't let this person think I don't like them." I think I know far too many people who take things much too personally.
They might think that if someone doesn't return an email within 24 hours that the other person doesn't like them or is angry with them for some reason. They may entertain thoughts that someone has been talking about them behind their back. They wonder if an acquaintance was really in a hurry at the grocery store and therefore couldn't talk to them, or that person was just making up an excuse to get away. Even my own dear husband sometimes thinks I'm attacking him as a person if I suggest that he do something a little differently, such as putting the dishes in the dishwasher the way I want him to. My children think I don't love them if I correct them or ask them to put away their coats for the 85 billionth time in one day. (Ok, so children are very fragile, and disciplining them is not an easy job.)

So, where am I going with all of this? I don't know. I'm just meandering, I guess. I want to get back in the habit of writing in my blog daily, or at least more frequently, so I'm writing something to get me started. And no, I don't really take it personally that I've lost a few readers. It would be silly for me to lie to you and say that I blog just for the sake of writing, because I definitely enjoy having followers and feedback, but I know that I have to let go and not worry too much about what others think of me. This is a lesson for blogging and a lesson for life.


  1. I love you Jen! Life just gets crazy, don't worry. But we all love hearing what you have to say!

    Have a wonderful week my friend!


  2. It stinks we girls can get emotional over such stupid stuff. I'm actually thinking I might give up my comments for Lent because they play too much into my happiness for the day. I should be happy whether or not people want to leave a comment, right?

  3. I can't fathom why someone would bother stopping following (grammar?) someone because they don't write. After all....they don't show up if they don't write. Anyway, the following thing is distressing. I see you have almost as many followers as I do - and you don't write as much (hair-tearing here). Really, I have the most wonderful why does having or not having "followers" matter? e-high school, I guess.

    Today I was looking at a few unknown followers and I am not so sure that some people don't just follow ANYONE (like those dumb people that sign up to be my followers on Twitter even though I just don't tweet.)

    So...I'd like you to write more, but if you don't I will not get mad and huff off.

  4. Sometimes its just hard to figure out something to write about! And besides spending time with your family is far more important!


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